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Bar/Bat Mitzvah

The journey to the day is as important as the day itself.

At Shir Tikvah, becoming a b'nei (bar/bat/b) mitzvah is a process that involves the whole family. We know that this rite of passage can transform the lives of students as they learn and interpret their Torah portions, practice the songs and prayers, and prepare for the service itself. It's a year of growth—spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually for everybody—culminating in a memorable and most happy celebration. 

If you'd like to discuss what the b'nei mitzvah process can mean for you and your child, please get in touch with Beth Levin, our cantor. Families of b'nei mitzvah students can use these resources to accompany them on their learning journey.

B'nei Mitzvah Resources

  • B'nei Mitzvah Handbook -  Everything you need and want to know about preparing your child and family for their bar or bat mitvah, including the complete fee schedule.  Read the B'nei Mitzvah Handbook. (updated January 2023)

  • Event Planning Handbook - Read the Event Planning Handbook for planning your child's party. (updated January 2023)

  • Shabbat Service Audio Tutorial (aka Mitzvah Makers Tutorial) - Listen or download the Tutorial to practice and learn the prayers and songs used at Shir Tikvah.

  • Tikkun Olam Fund Acknowledgement Card: Let someone know that you've donated in their honor with this template.

2024 Scheduling

Scheduling is now open for children turning 13 in 2024. You can download a calendar-format list of available dates here. Please use the form below and submit no later than January 1, 2023. 

Please note two important mandatory dates in January 2023:

  • Tuesday, January 17 2023, 7:30 pm: Mitzvah Makers "nuts and bolts" session for parents (adults only, online).
  • Saturday, January 21 2023, 10 am: Mitzvah Makers part 2 (Children AND parents, at Temple Shir Tikvah)

Refer to this availability calendar, then choose your preferred dates & times (1st, 2nd, and 3rd choice). Please choose a date that falls shortly after (or on) your child's 13th birthday. Priority is given based on proximity to the child's birthday.

Note: If you hope to hold a reception at the Temple, bear in mind that a full-length (4-hour) reception may not be possible following a morning (10 am) service; it will depend on what else is scheduled at the Temple for that day. A 2-hour reception is possible no matter the time of the service.

All dates are Saturdays in 2024
All dates are Saturdays in 2024
All dates are Saturdays in 2024
Note that we will not be able to hold any dates in the meantime.
Remember that if your service is at 10 am, we cannot guarantee availability for a 4-hour reception.

Payment and Billing: When you receive confirmation (January), you will be billed for the B’nei Mitzvah Package ($2,100 total), which includes the b’nei mitzvah ceremony and all tutoring sessions with Beth. A deposit of $200 will be due on January 21. The remaining balance of $1,900 will be due 30 days before the ceremony date. Those using the Temple for a reception venue will be asked to pay the rental fees at the same time.


Thu, September 28 2023 13 Tishrei 5784